When the Every Day is Everything

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“Be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle.’ -John Watson (pen name Ian MacLaren)

It was a hectic morning. My daughter had to leave before 7:00 am to meet her high school sports team; my son for his usual early morning bus ride to junior high school.

And off they go…the passage of time hasn’t escaped me for a long time. But even more so today, though we are harried getting lunches and packing bags and finding socks – I intentionally take in every moment. Nope particularly today, I won’t hurry to get past the moment.

Whether at work or at home, my mind naturally tends toward strategy and macro action. See donuts in front of the gym after a basketball game. I explain to my kids why a donut after a game is not a good health choice, but I also want to understand the research on kids’ eating habits and how this decision to sell these sugary snacks impacts our kids’ long-term relationship with food and what we can do to change the policy. I know…I am a blast at parties and my children love this about me.

In real life, no matter how far your head is in the clouds or how big your dreams or strategic your work, sometimes, often you have to look for the socks. This is the hardest part of parenting for me because even with self-reliant kiddos the list of mundane tasks is pretty long, and there are many days where I fail miserably at it.

But today, I am grateful as I understand the significance of the mundane.

Today, I make my daughter’s lunch as she gathers her books and take in how meaningful it is when someone you loves helps you when your day is busy. Our time is tight, but I stop for a moment to hug my son good-bye a second time.

Last night we received an email from our school administration. The second this fall. Another student at our high school passed away after losing his battle with depression.

Yes, there is a time to ask the bigger questions, understand the underlying problem. But also today, before school and work and the tasks of the day, I take a moment to remind my kids. I love you. I believe in you. I am proud of you. I’ll strike up a conversation with the person waiting in line that looks tired. And thank the EMT workers for the job they do.

That’s not enough. I will do more. But today that it is all the meaning I can muster. The rest of the world will have to wait.